Tips for moving back home

by kaudette on May 19, 2014

moving in with parents

  1. Set reasonable expectations—When moving home, you have to consider that what is acceptable at college may not be ideal for your parents’ house. There is a good chance that in college you could come and go as you please, and could have any visitor you wanted. However, your parents may not be comfortable or willing to allow these practices to continue.  It is important to communicate with your parents about expectations of your living arrangement (for both parties). You can discuss what they expect of you and what you expect to be able to do and hopefully you can come to an amicable compromise.
  2.  Set some ground rules- You need to discuss the boundaries. What will your parents expect you to obey? A curfew? A clean room? In addition, what boundaries will you put forth that your parents should respect? Perhaps you ask your mom not to enter your room and rifle through your stuff.
  3.  Expect a new relationship—It is important to understand that your relationship with your parents will become a combination of roommate and parent-kid. You will always be their child, however, having you reenter the home as an adult will be difficult for them. Both you and your parents need to realize your relationship is different and should be treated that way.
  4.  Set a time frame—It is always a good idea, whether verbally or just as a thought, to set a time frame for how long you will live there. In some instances, parents have a much different idea of how long the child will stay than the child does. Whether you give it some thought or have a solid plan, it is important to communicate with your parents about it.
  5.  Discuss money—Talking finances can sometimes be awkward, but it has to be done. Due to the fact that you are returning to your home as an adult, it may be expected that you contribute to the household differently than when you left. Some topics of discussion may be paying rent,  contributing to utilities (such as electricity or water), assisting with the monthly grocery bill. This may seem strange to discuss but it will make your return to the household as smooth as possible.
  6.  Create support networks—Even in college you required support from friends and family when you needed to vent or get away from the stress of school. Now you may find that you require support from friends or family to get away or vent about life at home. This is normal. Due to the fact that you are returning to your parents’ home after being away, the relationship may require a little more work and may get a little strained. Turning to a group of friends or family outside of the home is a great way to deal with this stress in a healthy way.
  7.  Think creatively—Both sides of the relationship (you and your parents) have to think creatively about how you will both give and take in the relationship. Perhaps you will not be required to contribute to the finances of the household, but instead you will be expected to help out with the housework and daily needs of the home (such as dishes, laundry, etc.). Think about and discuss how you will contribute and what you will get out of living back at home.
  8.  You’ve changed—This is simple. All you need to consider is that the person you were when you moved out of your parents’ house is not the same person returning. You have had an enormous amount of development and growth and have experienced so much more than when you left for your freshman year. If both you and your parents consider this, understanding each other will be a lot easier.
  9.  Build your life—Don’t think of being at your parents’ house as something that is holding you back. It should be a time where you have the opportunity to plan and build your new life. Take advantage of this time and don’t think about it as a negative, backward step.
  10.  Enjoy yourself—Take advantage of the time you have with your family and friends at home. Let’s face it, a home cooked meal is decidedly better than dining hall choices. Spend time getting to know your family in a whole different way. You now have the opportunity to build an adult-child relationship with your folks.

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Sit Back, Relax, and Laugh

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Hey BSU Bears, congratulations on making it through another semester! Here are some funny cartoons and visuals to kick off the summer and celebrate the end of finals!

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